(We call each other “B”)
After meeting through a mutual friend in high school, we formed a very intense friendship almost immediately. We were dating within a year, and have been deliriously in love ever since. Our journey to motherhood began in June of 2012 when we made the decision to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist to learn about our options. Initially, Devan was going to carry (after winning a heated best out of three match of rock-paper-scissors.) We switched to Ashley after 5 IUI cycles with Clomid, four of which were unsuccessful and one of which ended in a chemical pregnancy at 5 weeks. Ashley also underwent 5 IUI cycles using Clomid. Her second attempt resulted in becoming pregnant with our son, Rohen, who was stillborn at 20 weeks due to severe placental and umbilical abnormalities which resulted in intrauterine growth restriction.
Ashley’s fifth IUI cycle (10th total) was responsible for our twins, Harper and Elliott.
Harper suffered from IGUR, just like Rohen. Because of her placental and umbilical abnormalities, she and Elliott were delivered via emergency c-section at 32 weeks, 2 days on November 8th, 2014. They were immediately admitted to the NICU. Elliott and Harper stayed in the NICU for 30 and 51 days, respectively.
(Harper Andersen & Elliott Edward)
We are co-sleeping, attachment parenting, openly secular moms with a focus on raising kindhearted, freethinking children. Our blog has evolved over the years to cover so much more than just trying to start a family. We write about the joy and sorrow of welcoming beautiful new lives in the wake of the loss of a child. We write about our path to motherhood and the unique challenges faced by new moms, lesbian moms, working moms, NICU moms and the moms of children who have passed. (We get to be all of those at once!)
We hope you enjoy our story ♥