About the Davis Family

We are Devan and Ashley Davis, and this is our story! ♥1891138_10153801687500366_817389558_n

(We call each other “B”)

After meeting through a mutual friend in high school, we formed a very intense friendship almost immediately. We were dating within a year, and have been deliriously in love ever since. Our journey to motherhood began in June of 2012 when we made the decision to see a Reproductive Endocrinologist to learn about our options. Initially, Devan was going to carry (after winning a heated best out of three match of rock-paper-scissors.) We switched to Ashley after 5 IUI cycles with Clomid, four of which were unsuccessful and one of which ended in a chemical pregnancy at 5 weeks. Ashley also underwent  5 IUI cycles using Clomid. Her second attempt resulted in becoming pregnant with our son, Rohen, who was stillborn at 20 weeks due to severe placental and umbilical abnormalities which resulted in intrauterine growth restriction.


Ashley’s fifth IUI cycle (10th total) was responsible for our twins, Harper and Elliott.


Harper suffered from IGUR, just like Rohen. Because of her placental and umbilical abnormalities, she and Elliott were delivered via emergency c-section at 32 weeks, 2 days on November 8th, 2014. They were immediately admitted to the NICU. Elliott and Harper stayed in the NICU for 30 and 51 days, respectively.


(Harper Andersen & Elliott Edward)

We are co-sleeping, attachment parenting, openly secular moms with a focus on raising kindhearted, freethinking children. Our blog has evolved over the years to cover so much more than just trying to start a family. We write about the joy and sorrow of welcoming beautiful new lives in the wake of the loss of a child. We write about our path to motherhood and the unique challenges faced by new moms, lesbian moms, working moms, NICU moms and the moms of children who have passed. (We get to be all of those at once!)

We hope you enjoy our story ♥


21 thoughts on “About the Davis Family

  1. Em and casey says:

    Me and my girlfriend have been together for about three months and i showed her this story and we were both inspired. Were a teen couple and its really hard dealing with rude people. Thank you guys for being pur inspiration.

  2. Tenille says:

    Hi! My partner and I are 21 weeks pregnant with twins and live in Mesa. Our story is similar….IUI after IUI + Clomid but after almost a year of trying we finally got pregnant. I’m due 3/5/14, but twins typically come around 36 weeks. We also have lesbian couple friends who are 29 weeks pregnant in Chandler. We should make a Phoenix Lesbian Mommies group and get together for play dates! Congratulations to you two!

  3. Christine says:

    Hello ladies,
    Inspiring story. My wife and I have been together for 6 years and are trying to conceive. We’ve done 4 cycles of iui and just started a cycle using injectables. Your story gives us hope. Thanks for sharing.

    • Devan Davis says:

      Thank you! We always loving reaching people who are on the same journey. It’s so great to know that other people are going through the same struggles and that we aren’t alone. Best of luck! ❤️

  4. Jackie Roberts says:

    I just love reading your stories. I feel that you both are blessed with the love you share. I’m looking forward hearing all that life brings you. Best wishes to you.
    Love, Jackie ❤️

  5. Bibi says:

    Hi there! Just found your blog and I am sorry for your loss but at the same time delighted for the next chapter in your lives-my wife and I had twin boys in December. I am excited to

  6. Love,DANI says:

    Glad you found me ashley! Love your store and you guys are gorgeous! Beautiful couple and soon to be mamas!! Im sorry about Rohen and very excited about your twins!! xoxoxox

  7. Roxxroxx says:

    I can’t imagine what you two must have been through, but at least you are on track to another wonderful chapter! We have fraternal twin girls and a looooong blogging history -would love to connect. 🙂

  8. Nadine says:

    Just found your blog and will be busy tonight catching up! 🙂 My wife Katie and I live in Phoenix with our almost 1-year old son, Fox. You babies are adorable and I can’t wait to read more about your family!

  9. Amanda says:

    Hi! My wife and I are just starting the IUI process – i will go for my blood work this month! We are recently married and cannot wait to start a family! Reading your blog was inspiring, but also a dose of reality because not having it work the first time is a very real and possible outcome! Thank You for sharing your story with the world. Also, the twins are absolutely beautiful.

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