The last time I posted an update here it was at 11 weeks. Things are just insane right now, it’s hard to juggle family, work and school and still keep my head above water. I get so discouraged sometimes, but I know that in the end, our security and my career will be all worth it!
The twins were 5 months old on April 8th, and we have been very busy.
As Ashley wrote about before, we have been very worried about Harper’s inability to hold her head up, her hypertonia and the possibility of her having CP. Ashley has worked tirelessly and finally found a great physical therapist at the hospital that the twins were born at, and we have just been working with Harper to strengthen her neck muscles in the meantime. A couple of days ago, she did this:
First of all, how cute is this baby? Second, of all, this cute ass baby straight up faked us out. Not only did she do this for me, she immediately rolled over from belly to back. Then, she held her head up without the pillow for support. Of course, she now holds her head up during every tummy time session and rolls consistently from belly to back without issues. I don’t know why we are so surprised, Harper has always been like this. In the NICU, she did this to us three times. First, with her feedings, she would have these insane residuals. We would feed her 5ml, come back three hours later and the same 5ml would be in her stomach. She kept this up, not pooping or digesting, looking like the top picture:
And one day just started pooping and eating like a champ, and looked more like the bottom picture. She did the same thing to us with her oxygen, requiring just the tiniest little amount and desatting as soon as we tried to wean her. Over and over we tried to wean and she would hover in the low 80s until we turned that tiny little whiff of O2 back on. One day, we took everything off of her and she was completely fine. Finally, with her feedings, she stayed on the NG feeding tube for so long that we were discussing taking her home with it. A couple of days before Christmas, she took her first full bottle. By Christmas day she was NG tube free. The moral of the story is that Harper is a procrastinator. She likes to be lazy and take her time just up until it becomes a serious issue, and then she gets it together. Basically, she’s me in High School. We are going to keep our therapy appointment to really get a better idea of what’s causing the hypertonia (she does become very rigid, especially when mad) but we are feeling really great about her physical development. Harper now takes about 5oz bottles every three hours and sleeps through the entire night (up to about 11 hours once!) We have started feeding her, and she’s tried avocado, apples and bananas. She doesn’t quite know what to do with the food in her mouth, but we are practicing with her about twice a day. She’s FINALLY on the curve for her weight, in the 5th percentile for a 3 month old (her adjusted age.) She weighs about 11 pounds now, wears size 1 diapers and has outgrown her newborn clothing! We are mostly putting her in 0-3 or 3 month outfits now. She smiles all day long, but the biggest seem to be in the morning when she wakes up and sees us. She’s still very feisty, and instead of crying will “protest”, basically just loud grunting and yelling. She coos and gurgles, but we’ve only had one real giggle. We are so ready for belly laughs!
Elliott is really just such a great baby, he has been low maintenance (at least in a big-picture sense) from the get go. The only issues we have with Elliott are his spitting up (every feeding, lots of laundry) and his sensitivity. He’s such a sweet, snuggly boy. He gets upset when he’s not being held or paid direct attention to, and we think he’s definitely going to be a mama’s boy for life. He takes 6 ounce bottles every three hours and sleeps through the night just like his sister. He has tried apples, avocado and bananas, and LOVED them. We tried chicken, which he gagged on and did not like at all. Elliott is so chunky, with big rolly thighs and a double chin that makes his cleft chin so much more pronounced. He wears 3-6 month clothing and weights about 13 lbs, putting him in size 2 diapers now. His herniated bellybutton has pretty much resolved now, and he just has a cute innie-outie. Elliott coos, gurgles, squeals and basically just makes a ton of cute noise. Just one laugh from him so far as well, but we know laughs are right around the corner.
Easter was so much fun this year, we got to dress the babies up and take them to both of our moms’ houses.
We have worked out a pretty great schedule thanks to my mom. Ashley works Monday through Friday and I have school until 12:30 on Tuesdays and Thursdays. I also work three 12 hour shifts during the week including every third weekend, so I am out of the house 4-5 days a week as well. My mom watches the babies while we are away, and she does such great job with them. They love waking up in their carseats and seeing her, and she spoils them all day long. We miss them so much, so it’s great to know that someone who loves them is caring for them.
We are also pretty deep into a Ketogenic diet right now, because being healthier has been a huge priority for us since the babies were born. We want to feel and look better, and most importantly set a healthy example for the twins and they grow up. It’s been a challenge but we are both seeing results and feel really good about it.
Here are some pictures I took of the twins this morning, a little past their actual 5 month birthday but still close!
As always, everyone is in our thoughts! Best of luck to everyone with TTC, pregnancy and parenting. We’re all in this together ❤