28 Weeks & Short Term Disability

How far along? 28 Weeks

My babies are the size of: Large Eggplant

Net weight gain:  4 1/2 lbs of the 10 lbs I lost gained back

Maternity clothes: Yes

Sleep: Waking up to pee, a lot. Still have hip pain 😦

Best Moment this week: Seeing the babies yesterday, and knowing we will be seeing them every week from now on.

Miss Anything: Beer and sleeping on my tummy!

Movement: Yes!

Food Cravings: Nothing really right now

Anything making you queasy or sick: Insane heartburn & the naseau has returned – not as bad as my first trimester but definitely back

Gender:  B&G

Labor Signs: Cervix is funneling, on mandatory bed rest for the time being.

Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy, almost all the time!

Weekly Wisdom: Be happy!

Looking forward to: Seeing the babies next Tuesday!!!

We made it to 28 weeks, a huge milestone in pregnancy and I couldn’t be happier. We had an ultra sound yesterday and Harper is still measuring small and is below the 10th percentile for growth now (8.5%) so the weekly monitoring will continue, and at 30 weeks we will be going in twice a week. The good news is – she is continuing to grow, and she is not in distress which means for now she gets to stay put. She weighs around 2lbs1oz and is measuring 26w5d, Elliott is measuring 27w2d and weighs 2lbs8oz – this was taken while I was 27w6d. My cervix looks great, still funneling but bed rest is clearly working and it hasn’t gotten any worse. At this point it isn’t likely they’re going to come early due to pre-term labor, but because the doctors decide it is time to take them out. Because of Harper’s growth issues they are thinking between 32 & 34 weeks so we are going to have our babies in the next 4-6 weeks which is just absolutely insane to me! Our doctors goal is to get them out before they experience any distress! I cannot wait to meet them and am crossing my fingers they can make it to 34 weeks, but ultimately I am just glad we are past 28 weeks now and their survival rate is pretty much 100%.

Now onto the crappy news…I found out on Friday that a company wide policy was enforced that we could no longer do a certain job function from home – did I mention this is 80% of my job? At that point working from home was really not an option anymore and I told Devan that I was pretty sure they were going to let me go because my job would be impossible to get coverage for, for the next 5-6 months and since I haven’t been there a year I am not protected by FMLA. (PS – Arizona is a right to work state, they’re totally allowed to legally do this) Well I got the call today, and while it sucks I have to say I am grateful for how my company handled it. They started off saying that I can come back after the babies are born, and that they contacted disability and made sure I would have coverage and get payment the entire time I am unable to work before doing so. They actually haven’t given me a termination date yet because my HR representative wants to make sure I am 100% getting the short term disability. It could be worse, I was already expecting the 40% pay cut at this point, and I’m so happy that they took all of this into consideration and didn’t just fire me and leave me high and dry. We left on good terms and I am actually hoping a lot of my co-workers still come to the baby shower. This is actually not the worse thing that could happen, I told Devan when I got pregnant that I was interested in possibly looking for another job (possibly within my current company) the main reason being I currently work 30 miles away and have a 40 minute commute to and from work, I really don’t want to be that far from the baby sitters once I return to work in case the babies need anything. So, life could be worse right? I stress about money, we have a savings but I never anticipated having to start using it this early, so it makes me nervous. I’m beyond stressed about the baby shower because I haven’t gotten a lot of RSVPs (people stopped doing this, why?) so I don’t have an accurate idea of how much food to make. Being on a tighter budget it would be nice to know if I can expect 50 people or 100 people, it will make a difference financially. I know a bunch of people that are coming that haven’t RSVP’d but you never know what will happen until the actual event date. I think we are just going to bite the bullet and prepare food for 100 people and hope that the 80+ people that have said “OF COURSE WERE COMING” in the past 2 months actually show up. I’m so excited to share the babies with everyone, and am grateful for all of our friends and family and can’t wait to celebrate. It is going to be a fun day for sure. My landlord DID get the flooring situation figured out, and while he went with a chain store (home depot) which means he’s paying the same for just carpet replacement that I got quoted from a family referral for carpet AND tile, it is getting taken care of, so I am just going with it at this point. We realize we are not locked into this house – we don’t own it and we don’t have to stay here. We are going to get through the next few months and have these babies and get adjusted to life with two kids and at that point may reevaluate our living situation.

That is pretty much what is happening in our life right now…lots of changes coming up.

❤ Ashley


26+5, Fetal Doppler Scare

We had our followup ultrasound today to check on Ashley’s cervix, and we got another little unpleasant surprise as well.

First, we did manage to get a picture of Harper’s face for the first time in forever, it was all smashed up into her chest and her brother’s head and very chubby!



Putting their heads together.

Our doctor didn’t want to measure the twins today because it’s unlikely there would be any significant change in their size.

Ashley’s cervix is definitely still dynamic and funneling, but it hasn’t progressed at all which is AWESOME.

IMG_4036IMG_4039Ashley’s cervix opening and closing.

It’s actually improved a little, so bed rest is working. About 1.5cm of her cervix is still closed. Our perinatologist says bed rest is still on, but she can spend time sitting up and doesn’t have to worry so much about only laying down. Thank goodness. We have an OB appointment tomorrow, and we will talk to her about what Ashley can and can’t do. I know she’s having a hard time not hanging out with our friends Shad and Lisa, we usually see them at least once a week for dinner or to just hang out. We’re also hoping that she will be able to go to our baby shower and not have to appear via FaceTime 😉

There is a 15% size difference between Harper and Elliott, Harper being smaller. Our OB’s thoughts on this were “Eh, I don’t give a shit… she’s a girl.” (I do feel like she might be a little biased because she’s a former gymnast and she’s about the size of a fetus, but that’s beside the point lol) Our perinatologist felt differently. She spent a lot of time doing a doppler study of Harper, measuring all the blood flow. She determined that her umbilical S/D ratio is elevated, which could or could not be the reason she is falling behind Elliott in growth (she was 8% behind last month)

Cue immediate panic.

We got home and I decided to get her on the phone for some clarification, because Rohen’s problems started out like this. He fell a little more behind each time we went in, and then he was just gone. I told her that we were feeling like the same thing was about to start happening and she said that had she not been talking to us and had she not known our history, she never would have mentioned the S/D ratio at all. She said it’s not clinically significant at this point, it’s just something she wants to keep an eye on. She said, “Look, if it makes you feel any better, I was incredibly worried about your son. I am not worried about your daughter.” Phew. We were also a little worried about their weights being low, and she told us “If I had to choose between a 25 week preemie in the 90th percentile for growth and a 27 week preemie in the 10th, I would choose 27 weeks every single time.”

So the plan going forward will be to check them weekly and continue to measure them and do fetal doppler studies. We are so thankful to be coming up on 27 weeks… every week we can keep them in counts! We’re still hoping to make it to the baby shower, especially since the invites are all sent out and the RSVPs are rolling in. (That reminds me, if you haven’t RSVPed get on it!)

We will have lots of news next week, I’m sure.

❤ Devan